Celebrating LGBTQ+: A Guide to Same-Sex Engagement & Wedding Bands
A gemmologist with decades of experience and multiple qualifications, Eddi revels in creating unique jewellery designs with his clients. Influenced by his time in Glasgow, NYC and South America, he brings a wordly perspective in his approach to jewellery design.
First thing’s first: Talk to your partner
Choosing who will pop the question or whether both partners want to trade engagement rings are just two examples of the decisions that same-sex couples frequently have to make that are not covered by conventional norms. When these questions are addressed collaboratively, clarity is produced, and both partners are certain to feel heard and included in the planning process.
Talking openly also allows you to discuss important practicalities, like budgets and timelines. This conversation is also a chance to explore how you’d like to express pride within your ring designs. Some couples prefer subtle nods, while others love vibrant or symbolic elements that celebrate their identity. Then, from the conversation, you might have a better idea of what your rings, wedding, celebration, and so on look like.
Lesbian engagement rings or gay engagement rings can be a beautiful mix of tradition and personalisation, often reflecting each couple’s unique style and story. Many couples love the idea of rings that complement each other without being identical, showing that while they’re deeply connected, each partner is unique. Next, we list 5 LGBT engagement ring ideas.
5 LGBTQ+ Engagement Ring Ideas
#1. The 'Wedding-and-Engagement-Ring' Ring
In same-sex relationships, gone are the traditional confines of a man proposing to a woman (which is a pretty outdated rule to abide by anyway), meaning many gay couples reach a mutual decision to get married without a surprise proposal. And where there is no surprise proposal, there is no surprise engagement ring – so why not combine your engagement ring and wedding ring in one?
Add a little sparkle and detail to the ring you’ll don at your nuptials with a small diamond: not-quite-a-wedding-ring, not-quite-an-engagement-ring, but a fantastic (and beautiful) symbol of your partnership nonetheless. Equally, an eternity ring is a beautiful symbol of your eternal love for your partner. Whether you plan on getting married or not, the super romantic gift of an eternity ring is sure to bag you major brownie points.
#2. One Ring For Me, One Ring For You
Who should wear the engagement ring in a gay partnership? Even if you’re the one proposing, there’s nothing to stop you both from wearing an engagement ring. Alternatively, you may come to the mutual decision to get married, so why not challenge your partner to design each other’s rings? Creating a pair of rings with a shared characteristic but different overall look is a great idea. That could be choosing the same cut of diamond, opting for the same milgrain detailing, or using a certain coloured gemstone for detailing; think about what’s important to you, and what would be a great symbol of your relationship.
#3. Gender-Neutral Wedding Rings
Your engagement ring can be as gender-neutral as you want it to be, whether that’s jazzing up a thick, plain band with the odd diamond, using black diamonds to create an eternity ring, or simply opting for a plain band.
#4. Boundary Breaking Bespoke Rings
Many Hatton Garden jewellers have been family-owned for decades, which is not to say they don’t move with the times. It can, however, be tricky to find something that differs from the norms of what can be an incredibly traditional industry.
Whether you’re searching for gay men’s wedding rings or lesbian engagement rings, you may feel what’s on offer doesn’t quite reflect you enough. Blurring the lines between what is traditionally feminine or masculine is exciting, and only you and your partner will know exactly what is right for you, so get creative! The beauty of bespoke jewellery means you can inject as much of your unique personality into your ring as you like. We’re predicting big things for gender-neutral engagement rings because the nature of bespoke is all about finding what’s right for you and your partner, not what lores and traditions have told us to do for hundreds of years. At Queensmith, our team of design experts will help you piece together the ring that's totally right for you.
#5. Diamond Rings For All
Who’s to say you can’t don a super traditional, super sparkly diamond engagement ring? We’re all guilty of ogling the solitaire, halo and diamond band engagement rings we see splurged across our Instagram feeds. Alternatively, opt for a diamond eternity ring. Get your sparkle on!
A community to be proud of!
Queensmith is proud to play a small part in the love stories of our LGBTQ+ clients. It has always been important to us to make ourselves visible as an LGBTQ+ inclusive jewellers, amongst an industry that can otherwise feel archaic. Together with our design experts, create something that's totally right for you and your love – your way.
Same-Sex Engagement & Wedding Rings
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There are a lot of gay and lesbian couples who exchange engagement rings. Of course there's no set rule, instead, it all comes down to what you and your partner feel is right. Some couples wait until the wedding to exchange rings, while others both wear engagement bands or only one partner does. While some choose to wait for the wedding rings, others want to mark the commitment immediately after the proposal by wearing an engagement ring.
Not at all! Matching wedding rings is a beautiful option, but it’s by no means a requirement. Some couples love the symbolism of matching rings, while others feel that having unique rings better reflects their individuality within the relationship. We always suggest our customers choose what resonates with their relationship, not what tradition dictates.
The conventional approach is taken by many gay couples, who, like straight couples, wear their wedding bands on the left hand. To defy convention and represent their LGBTQ+ status, some people, however, opt to wear them on their right hand.
Like everyone else, a lot of lesbians wear their wedding and engagement rings on their left hand's "ring finger," or fourth finger. However, if they desire a more distinctive twist or a more intimate custom, some couples decide to wear rings on their right hand or even choose a different finger entirely.
The rainbow flag, pink triangles, gender symbols, Celtic knots, infinity symbols or braided bands are some of the common symbols in LGBT engagement rings.
Yellow gold, platinum and rose gold are all popular with same-sex couples. Which they choose is dependent on the couples’ preferences and skin tone. If you want a warm and romantic hue, rose gold is the perfect choice. For something durable, modern and sleek then platinum is the one for you. For more information, read our Ring Metal Guide.
In England and Wales, the same-sex marriage act was approved in 2013, and as of March 29, 2014, couples are legally permitted to get married. LGBTQ+ couples have two choices for their special day thanks to this:
Marriage: Many locations in England and other UK countries have chosen to marry same-sex couples.
Civil partnerships: These don't have any religious overtones and are open to all couples, regardless of sexual orientation.
There are less rigid same-sex marriage and more flexible traditions surrounding same-sex marriages. This implies that you have complete control over how your wedding day is organised.
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