Celebrating Pride: Same Sex Engagement & Wedding Rings
Weddings are steeped in tradition: man proposes to woman with diamond engagement ring. Woman wears white dress to wed. Man makes speech at wedding. They speed off, tins-a-rattling behind their hired classic car, as friends and family wave and cheer. We’ve heard it all before, and while there are parts of the romanticism we love, there are parts of wedding tradition that are not so ‘one size fits all’.
When it comes to same sex marriages, civil partnerships, gender neutral celebrations and gay weddings, tradition is a little more blurred. Should you buy your boyfriend a sparkly engagement ring? Would your partner prefer to wear just a wedding band? Should you buy yourself an engagement ring? We say, relish in the fact there are no rules - if a simple plain band will suffice, great. If you want each of your hands to drip in diamonds in celebration of your love, go for it. And if you haven’t quite made up your mind, here are a few ideas to help you along the way.
The 2-in-1 Ring
In same sex relationships, gone are the traditional confines of man proposing to woman (which is a pretty outdated rule to abide by anyway), meaning many gay couples reach a mutual decision to get married without a surprise proposal. And where there is no surprise proposal, there is no surprise engagement ring - so why not combine your engagement ring and wedding ring in one. Add a little sparkle and detail to the ring you’ll don at your nuptials, such as this green and white diamond band with milgrain detailing: not-quite-a-wedding-ring, not-quite-an-engagement-ring, but a fantastic (and beautiful) symbol of your partnership nonetheless. Equally, an eternity ring is a beautiful symbol of your eternal love for your partner. Whether you plan on getting married or not, the super romantic gift of an eternity ring is sure to bag you major brownie points.
One For Me, and One For You
Who should wear the engagement ring in a gay partnership? Even if you’re the one proposing, there’s nothing to stop you both wearing an engagement ring. Alternatively, you may come to the mutual decision to get married, so why not challenge your partner to designing each other’s rings (ok, or design your own ring if you don’t quite trust their judgement). Creating a pair of rings with a shared characteristic but different overall look is a great idea. That could be choosing the same cut of diamond, opting for the same milgrain detailing, or using a certain coloured gemstone for detailing; think about what’s important to you, and what would be a great symbol of your relationship.
Wear it With PRide
We’re all familiar with the LGBTQ+ rainbow flag. The sumptuous colours from red, orange and yellow right through to green, blue and purple represent the diversity of the community, worn with pride. So what better way to celebrate your enduring love and the pride you have in your own relationship, than with a rainbow of coloured diamonds or gemstones? Sapphires can be found in a literal rainbow of colours, and are a great choice for a super colourful eternity ring.
Your engagement ring can be as gender neutral as you want it to be, whether that’s jazzing up a thick, plain band with the odd diamond, using black diamonds to create an eternity ring, or simply opting for a plain band. Whether you’re searching for gay men’s wedding rings or lesbian engagement rings, you may feel what’s on offer doesn’t quite reflect you enough. Blurring the lines between what is traditionally feminine or masculine is exciting, and only you and your partner will know exactly what is right for you, so get creative! The beauty of bespoke jewellery means you can inject as much of your unique personality into your ring as you like. We’re predicting big things for gender neutral engagement rings.
Many Hatton Garden jewellers have been family owned for decades, which is not to say they don’t move with the times. It can, however, be tricky to find something that differs from the norms of what can be an incredibly traditional industry. That’s where bespoke comes in, because the nature of bespoke is all about finding what’s right for you and your partner, not what lores and traditions have told us to do for hundreds of years. At Queensmith, we’re no strangers to crafting the bizarre and brilliant, as well as the minimalist and muted - it’s completely up to you.
Uber Feminine For All
Whether you’re female, male, gender fluid, gay, straight, bi or anything else for that matter, who’s to say you can’t don a super traditional, super sparkly diamond engagement ring? We’re all guilty of ogling the solitaire, halo and diamond band engagement rings we see splurged across the pages of Brides Magazine and The Knot’s Instagram feed. Get your sparkle on!
A Community To Be Proud Of
At Queensmith, we’re proud of London’s bubbling LGBTQ+ community, and we’re thrilled to play a small role by helping couples reach the right decision for them when it comes their engagement and wedding jewellery. If you have an engagement ring, wedding ring or any other jewellery design you would like to discuss with our gemmologists and design consultants, book an appointment today.